It's normal to feel hurt, angry, and frustrated when you see your child lying, but at this point, it's important to realize that lying can be a child's natural problem that needs to be addressed.
An article published in the Saudi magazine Saiditi.net has discussed this problem of children.
For most children, this is not a particular defect or a moral problem. As a parent, it becomes a duty to directly observe the behavior of a child who is addicted to lying so that it becomes easier for us to deal with the child's problems.
Following are the reasons why children lie.
Children lie to avoid hard work
Suppose a child gets themselves into trouble that they should not have done or has committed an infraction or omitted an important task that they should have done.
In such circumstances, if he has no other way to avoid punishment, he will lie. Sometimes children see lying as the only way out of trouble.
Children lie to get away from parents
Children sometimes use lies to keep a part of their lives separate from their parents. In the language of psychology, we call it 'individualism'. This is quite normal, but sometimes even about seemingly trivial things, they may lie outright.
This is frustrating for parents. Also, children lie when they feel that their home rules are too strict and they decide to disobey them.
Children lie for what they like
If they make a wrong choice for themselves, they use it to hide the truth from their peers. For example, a child will lie about doing something he did not do. Older people tell such lies and influence others.
Children lie to get attention
One of the reasons children lie is because they see lying as a way to get attention, and this is normal. Young children make up the story as someone tells it. 'Mama I saw the elephant fly through the window.' Of course his words are not the same as the lie of an older child when he says 'I finished my homework' and in fact he didn't.
Following are practical solutions to children's lying.
Pay attention to serious lies
The most dangerous lie is about unsafe, illegal or dangerous behavior. Parents should pay attention to serious lies. For example, hearing your child say 'I really like your dress' and then the child in the car tells you 'I didn't like her dress.' In such situations you need to pay attention. You can also eliminate the child's inconsistency, especially if it only happened once, but if he continues to lie all the time, you need to address the problem.
Don't immediately respond to your child's lies
If you come to know of a big lie about your child, don't respond immediately. Instead you send him to your room to calm down. Then talk to your spouse, a trusted friend or family member and come up with a solution.
That is, give yourself time to think about the situation.
Remember, you will not be effective when you respond without thinking. So give yourself some time and plan for it. When you talk, don't argue with your child about lying, but mention what you saw and what was true.
Plan for early intervention
If your child develops this problem, plan to intervene early with your spouse by being as neutral and unemotional as possible.
Identify the difficult behaviors you want to report. Also decide what the consequences will be for your child's behavior. When you talk to your child, be calm and realistic about your intentions. You tell him that there will be consequences for this behavior. You must be punished.
Take time to listen to your child
Because trying to lie is a child's way of solving a problem. Tell him you want to hear why he lied. Allow your child to explain the situation. Don't lecture your child, remember that it won't do any good as he will get bored listening to it.
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